In other words, it pays to focus your valuable energy on increasing your mate value as a woman in your relationship, over being obsessively fearful or vigilant.
The problem is that a lot of women fear the apparently more attractive woman having the ability to take their man. Take a look at the brouhaha surrounding Paraguayo mujeres Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt when they broke up…apparently it was all Angelina Jolie’s fault, but is it really her fault?
Or was she just opportunistic – and able to be so – because the bond between Aniston and Pitt wasn’t all that great to begin with? Perhaps they weren’t that loyal to each other after all?
It’s easy for women to look at another woman, and think that her beauty, status and enchanting disposition are a threat.
Regardless of whether or not someone like Angelina Jolie or the gorgeous girl next door have bad intentions with your husband or boyfriend, a successful and passionate relationship will thrive and remain strong despite external threats.
At the end of the day, mate poachers are the constant in this world – you cannot control them any more than you can control your own husband.
They will always exist, because the people who already successfully communicated their value, attracted a mate are already taken or married.
That leaves the remaining people two options: choose from the remaining pool of mates (which may carry more baggage or be of lower mate value).
Women and men of value are always going to be ogled at, desired and even conspired against by admirers. Remember that is a constant. You cannot control that.
“Mate poachers will always be ready to pounce. The pleasures of sexual temptation come in the here and now. The costs of infidelity lie in the distant and uncertain future. But perhaps a keener awareness of mate value logic will give us the tools to curtail the more sinister products of the mating wars.”
Here’s now I interpret the last line of what he says: we should be aware that mate value is a thing, it exists, and we should respect it and always seek to increase our own value.
Isn’t The Onus On Your Man, Rather Than “The Other Woman”?
And yes, a lot of women do get a big rush from seeing if they can steal a man from a woman, and this is not right. I’m not making this behaviour OK.
However, it’s ultimately about the quality of the marriage or relationship, as well as the quality of your own character and the quality of the man you chose.
As soon as you blame the other woman, not only is this not classy, it completely strips you of your power as a woman. (Power to learn and grow and do what’s best for your relationship).
If you blame a third party for something that is ultimately your own responsibility – (your relationship) – then all hope is gone.
You are supposed to have the power in a relationship, not a third party. A woman who knows the power of femininity knows this.
Other women are simply not threats and should not be to a loving and passionate relationship where there is a lot of attraction already.
Ultimately, if we choose to see other people as a threat to our special relationship, then we cannot be empowered. We cannot do anything about it, and we’ll end up in disappointment.
Know Who You Are In A Relationship With!
Hint: Know who you are in a relationship with. Don’t get in to a relationship with somebody who you know doesn’t value their relationship as first priority.